Wednesday, July 22, 2009

Stag Party Planning

Bachelor party is a party celebrated by the groom-to-be with his buddies and friends to bid an adieu to his bachelorhood days. Bachelor parties are also called as the bulls parties and bucks parties/nights. They are also regarded as the stag night or the stag party. This is basically to celebrate and invite a new page into a man's book called marriage hood. The groom-to-be quits his bachelorhood in a way that his bride-to-be may not appreciate it most of the times.

A stag party includes but not limited to fun and frolic activities involving alcohol, dance, gamble games, and goes even to the extent of importing female strippers and escorts.

Groom's friends and buddies in fact arrange stag party. They strictly maintain the suspense about the kind of party they have planned for the groom-to-be and this is even more fun.

The Best Man who is groom-to-be brother mostly takes an upper hand in organizing the stag party. In any case the stag party ideas will be planned such a way that the groom-to-be will have an unforgettable experience. A commonest idea for a stag party is arrange it in stripper's clubs and then invite superstar escorts and strippers of the place. There are some grand parties where the strippers are imported from out of the country such as Mexico and Brazil. No wonder it can be great fun for the groom-to-be to enjoy in the company of strippers, but many a times the grooms to be become irresistible and end up in having sex with one or many of the escorts or strippers and it will jeopardize his image very badly. Also, the groom-to-be might start feeling guilty of breaking the trust of his bride-to-be for him before the marriage itself.

The stag party motive should be to enable the bachelor to have a night of orgies but within some predefined borders. So a better idea can be to go to a strippers' club rather than bringing strippers. In a confined place the chances to end in sexual indulgence will be less. So, even the groom-to-be can remain his natural self after the stag night.

Another very popular stag night idea is to enjoy a game of baseball, rugby, golf, basketball, or other games where everyone will be involved. To materialize this, a suitable venue or court is booked. To make it more eventful can get all the jerseys printed with some great quotes on love and sex. Needless to say that it will engage all including the groom-to-be and this exhaustive activity is followed with some great food and flow of drinks and champagne.

Another hit idea is to go for drag races. Groom-to-be with his other bachelor friends get into their cars and race as fast as they can along the speedways. Alternatively, they can try with bicycle racing along woods or lakesides or even race along the dirty roads. In any case fun to flow by having a drink or two stopping at pubs.

There can be some outdoor activities including fishing, SCUBA diving, and kayaking, sailing, rafting, trekking, skydiving, bungee jumping, parasailing, skiing and snowboarding. There can even be co-ed activities wherein the bride-to-be with her friends is welcomed to the stag party and the party will start with dancing and end in dining.

Saturday, July 18, 2009

How to change your mindset and improve your sexual stamina

One of the main reasons men suffer from premature ejaculation—which simply means reaching orgasm before they ideally want to when they have sex—is because they have a negative mindset. And it’s not surprising when you think about it. Our minds rule our bodies. If we are sad, we cry. If we are happy, we smile and walk confidently. And, yes, if we have the wrong mindset, we guys can climax too early during sex. Here’s how it works.

Let’s take an imaginary guy called James, who reaches orgasm too soon. He knows this and is very, very conscious of the fact that he wishes he could last longer and satisfy himself and his partners more. He’s been sexually active for a few years, it doesn’t really matter how long – the point is, he’s not happy with his performance. Fast forward to a sexual encounter. Even before foreplay has begun – as soon as the opportunity or chance to have sex has arisen – in the back of his mind is the nagging thought, “This time I’d like to last longer than I have in the past, but will I ejaculate too soon?”. Already, either consciously or subconsciously, his performance is tainted with negative emotion. It’s providing extra pressure he really doesn’t need. Before sex he was thinking about foreplay, during foreplay he’s thinking about how he’s going to satisfy the female, and all the while at the back of his mind overshadowing his thoughts is that question, “Am I going to ejaculate too soon?”. This technique focuses on bringing you into the present and avoiding the negative emotion that’s brought on by thinking about what has happened in the past, or what might happen the next time you have sex.

Totally aside from sex, you can witness how we operate on auto-pilot. Everyday, we’re taking ourselves out of the present and into the future when we really don’t need to. Walking down the street you’re thinking of work, at work you’re thinking about sex, during sex...well, we know what you’re thinking about during sex. The point is, to fully relax and focus and enjoy sex for long periods, you need to be in the present. Inadvertently thinking about what might happen – ejaculating too soon – takes your focus off what is actually happening: you’re moving up the stimulation scale. This in turn hampers your ability to identify how close you are to an orgasm, making its prevention impossible.

This technique has one simple goal: to increase your self-awareness and bring you back into the present during sex. It’s used during the plateau stage of sex, the hard part, where keeping control of yourself is the most important and difficult. What you need to do is, every now and then, ask yourself a couple of simple questions in your head. “Do I feel tense or relaxed?” and “How close am I to reaching orgasm?”. It’s really important you say the questions in your head and not just “think” them. Actually say each word. The first question uses a simple psychological principle to relax you and bring you into the situation at hand. If, after asking yourself if you feel tense, you notice your shoulders are tight, or that you’re tensing your stomach when it’s not necessary, you don’t need to think of what to do next. Your shoulders automatically drop and your tense mid-section relaxes. Asking yourself the second question, “How close am I to reaching orgasm?” is something you should be doing throughout sex – identifying where you are on the stimulation scale. This brings you into the present and focuses you, but actually saying the question in your head once in a while is doubly effective!

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Why can’t you last long enough in bed?

If you can’t last as long during sex as you’d like, then you aren’t alone. As much as 75% of the male population has trouble with premature ejaculation—so it’s by no means rare. What is rare, however, is seeing a guy solve his problem with rapid ejaculation using the right techniques and tactics. Perhaps this is because most men don’t know exactly what it takes to reverse their run of bad bedroom luck and turn their sex life around by increasing their sexual stamina.

The best place to start when solving your own case of ‘coming too quickly’ is identifying the real reasons you struggle to last long enough during sex. Read the following options.

1. You have a hard time controlling when you climax when you’re masturbating and when you have sex with your partner.

2. You only struggle to control when you ejaculate when you have sex. You have no problem doing it when you masturbate. When you have sex, you can’t last more than about 2 minutes before coming.

3. You have no problem with premature ejaculation when you masturbate, only when you have sex. When you have sex, you can usually last longer than 2 minutes, but less than 8 minutes.

If option one sounds the closest to your situation, then your premature ejaculation is probably being caused by an underlying case of hypersensitivity and sensational unawareness. This means that your penis is extremely prone to become over-stimulated as soon as sex begins and that you have a hard time really noticing when you’re close to and about to pass the ‘point of no return’, which—once passed—means that you’re going to climax no matter what you do. If you chose option two, then you probably have less hypersensitivity and more sensation unawareness.

This means that your penis does become very stimulated when you have sex—which can make it hard to refrain from coming early—but that your main problem is that you aren’t fully aware of the different stages of arousal you go through before you come. This means you need to train your body and your mind to recognize when you need to take action during sex to prevent yourself from coming too early. If you chose option 3, then your case of premature ejaculation isn’t too severe, but it is nevertheless something you probably want to get rid of. You’d like to double or even triple the amount of time you’re able to have sex for. To do this, you need to learn techniques that involve strengthening your PC muscle, heightening your arousal awareness and improving your sexual technique.

Whatever the cause of your personal problem with premature ejaculation is, it can almost always be improved or even fixed when you have the right knowledge and the correct attitude.

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Tuesday, July 7, 2009

Relationship Problem Advice - The Pitfalls and The Promises

Let's start with the fundamentals, shall we? A relationship is always going to set you challenges. If you are in one, intimate or otherwise, from time to time it will feel problematic. And if you're not in one, especially an intimate one, for most people, sooner or later that will constitute a relationship problem in itself.

There are basically only two kinds of problems in relationships: one is where seeking for the solution is going to lead to deepening your love, loyalty or commitment to one another, and the other is where it's going to drive you further apart.

So here's my relationship problem advice tip number 1: get clear, really clear, about how you want things to turn out before you wade in. In short, know your outcome. Ask yourself, will this action, these words, this decision deepen or weaken my relationship with this person?

However, there's a paradox here which you should realise. Advice is just someone else's opinion about how you should behave. Relationship problem advice is all too often based on the person's own experience, rarely on any form of expertise. The fact that your best mate is in, or has been in, a relationship, does not qualify him or her to tell you how to behave in yours!

Even the so called "relationship experts" will have their own canoe to paddle. Their background and cultural values, for example, will influence their judgement to some extent. Their gender and their own experience will also, no matter how much they may have been trained into neutrality.



(I'm a qualified psychotherapist. The two main differences between a professional giving relationship problem advice versus a well meaning friend or relative is that the professional is going to be less emotionally attached to what happens to you. That doesn't mean they don't care, it means they know how to pick up the pieces either way, and they aren't likely to love you like your brother might, for instance. The other difference is that the professional recognises when his or her own buttons are being pressed, and how to step back from becoming too involved).

So here's my relationship problem advice tip number 2: Make up your own mind. Of course, listen to the experts, the mates and your mother. But it's your life, your relationship and ultimately, your decision.

How do you make up your own mind? By listening to your heart. You cannot solve an emotional relationship problem with logic. Logic will tell you how much you can afford to spend on a new car, but it can't dictate which model you fall in love with.

In solving relationship problems, you must ask yourself: what feels right? What feels kind? And above all, what action can I take that fits with my values and what I believe in? If you believe in being kind, it's not going to be something you'll comfortably live with if you call your beloved a lot of terrible names and slam out of the house, is it?

Remember, ultimately, the person you've always got to live with is yourself, regardless of what happens in your other relationships.

So here's my ultimate relationship problem advice tip: Be kind and loving to yourself first. You're going to wake up with yourself every day of your life, so you'd better like the one and only person you're guaranteed to go to bed with!

Monday, July 6, 2009

Dating The Party Animal

When you met the person you are dating you were probably drawn to them because they were charismatic and just seemed like a lot of fun. You probably enjoyed the energy and attention that you got from the person and thought that you finally found the right person for you.

That was until, you went out and spent time with other people socially. You may have gotten a few odd looks when you explained that you really liked the person or that you have a lot of fun together. Little did you know, these were looks of empathy that you didn't yet understand.

After going out socially you probably started to see a different side of the person. You may have wanted to go home and they kept begging off, asking for just a little bit longer, and a little bit longer still. Suddenly you look around and you realize that your date is the life of the party. With a bit more attention to what is going on, you see that not only are they the life of the party, they are a true party animal! This can be quite a shock, especially if this is not your personality and what you expected from the person that you are dating.

It can be difficult to reconcile who you thought the person was with who they appear to be when they are in social situations. You may find that you feel angry, irritated, or even a little bit sad when you realize that this person isn't who you thought they were. You may need to remove yourself from the situation and do some serious soul searching. It's not that you can't date the party animal, you just need to decide if this is something that you are willing to do or something that you are willing to put up with.



For a lot of people, dating the party animal is a good thing. It allows for them to come out of their shell a bit more and start experiencing more exciting things in life that they may not have done otherwise. A lot of people find that this other side of the person that they are dating is a lot of fun, assuming that they are able to put away the party animal persona from time to time to have serious relationship moments.

You may find that dating the party animal is something that you are not willing to do. A lot of people are turned off by someone who loves to party a lot, and you are the only one who can determine if you are comfortable with the behavior or not. You may need to sit down and talk to the person you have been dating and see if this is really a part of who they are, or if they are able to be serious and responsible when called for. You may be able to strike a balance with the individual or you may just not want to party with them.

Dating the party animal can be a lot of fun but it can also be really hard if you are not the party type. You need to really look within yourself and decide if the relationship is one that you are willing to work for if you don't mesh 100%. If you just want to know that you will get that much energy and excitement when they are with you, chances are the party animal will not be a bad person to date!

Thursday, July 2, 2009

Some Simple Steps To Be Successful in Online Dating

Dating is not what it used to be. Nowadays, people are turning to the Internet in order to find a date and potential soul mate. Free online dating
is a new approach to dating. There are many advantages and disadvantages to online dating. Safety is one of the biggest issues. In order for free online dating to be successful, you should follow some simple steps.

Free online dating has many advantages. The Internet allows some people to be more open and adventurous. For instance, women often won't go up to a stranger in a bar and strike up a conversation. However, online dating allows those who are shy to make the first move.

Online dating gives people the chance to weed out people they would never be interested in. With the online dating services that are available today, people who are not compatible are not paired up with each other. If you are a non-smoker, you can request that only profiles of non-smokers be sent to you. Likewise, if you only want someone who has children, you can request that those profiles be sent to you.



Free online dating allows you to meet people from all over the world. Under normal circumstances you would only meet people who are local to you. But with online dating, you can meet people from your own state, as well as other states.

If you plan on posting a picture of yourself, make sure it is a good picture. Do not include kids, pets, family or friends in the picture. You will want the picture to be as clear as possible. This will allow onlookers to get an accurate feel of your looks.

It is important that you are always honest. Whenever you approach online dating, it is often times very easy to lie. However, honesty is definitely the best approach. Although some may turn away from your honesty, others may be in fact drawn in closer with it.

If you find someone you think you might be interested in, chat online with them for a while. After you feel confident that you are talking to someone you would like to get to know better, exchange phone numbers. For safety reasons, only give out your cellphone number. You do not want to give them access to your home phone, until you can verify they are truly who they say they are.

Keep the conversation light and simple. Do not share your personal information too quickly. You can gradually share personal information over time. But be sure to start out slow.

After talking for a while, both online and over the phone, you may choose to meet. One of the keys to meeting someone from the Internet is make sure you meet them in a public place. Never get in a car with someone you have only been talking to online.

Online dating has changed the way people think about dating. What used to seem like a daunting task has actually turned into something people want to do. By following some simple safety guidelines, online dating can open up a whole new world of dating. So the next time you are sitting around, wondering if you will ever find your soul mate, consider a free online dating service.

Wednesday, July 1, 2009

Simple Dating Tips For Girls

Many times when a girl is looking for a dating tip, there tends to be many ways to find them, but they lead to general tips that don’t result in specific dating tips for a girl. Sure, general dating tips can help anyone who reads them but for specific tips that help a particular gender or preference, they can be few and far between. If you’re looking for dating tips for a girl, look no further and read on!

The first thing you should know when looking into dating tips for a girl, is to pick and choose carefully. Because everyone is different, not every tip will work well for everyone. So be sure that you use the tips that you’re comfortable with, don’t forget to be true to who you really are, and you’re sure to be successful!

Tip #1

Dating tips for girls will usually include wearing sexy clothing and basically “putting yourself out there”. You won’t find these tips in this article. The first tip to be shared with you is to be yourself! Many women think that they can’t be themselves when they first meet a man for one reason or another.

The bottom line is, if he doesn’t like you for you, the relationship isn’t going to get very far because eventually your true colors will shine through, it’s human nature! So, be yourself and stay confident. You’ll meet plenty of men who love your personality and the kind of person you are.



Tip #2

Another great dating tip for girls is to make sure you don’t air your dirty laundry on the first date. Let’s face it, we all have things going on in our lives that aren’t the most attractive to the opposite sex. Now, this isn’t to say that you should keep this stuff hidden as long as possible, but you surely shouldn’t tell him all about it the first time you spend time together. Give him a chance to get to know you, and vice versa.

A door will open after a few dates that will allow you the chance to start giving him information he should know that may affect him in the long run. By the time these conversations come about, you’ll already be in a relationship and it will be easier for him to understand the things you’re telling him without being scared off.

Tip #3

Finally, another important dating tip for girls is to not come off as desperate! This doesn’t mean that you’re falling all over the men that you meet or letting them know how much you need to find a date, this means to avoid doing things like waiting by the phone for his call and paying for the date just because he asks.

These small things that you may think are simply thoughtful because you like him, may lead him to believe you’re willing to do whatever it takes to make him happy and to snag him for yourself. This leads to one of two things; he’ll either get turned off and stop calling, or he’ll decide that it’s worth taking advantage of you, neither of which you want.

Online Dating Is A Great Way To Meet That Special Someone

Online dating is a new way to find friends or perhaps to find your special someone. Online dating is increasingly in huge demand and is relatively inexpensive. While there are many free chat rooms and online personal ad sites, you may want to invest in paying a small fee to find people who are more serious about meeting a quality partner. Online dating is becoming very popular as is a great way to contact and make new friends.

The Dating Challenge

Dating is a challenge at any age and for both women and men. Online dating is a reasonably safe way to overcome this common problem. Dating in the online scene isn't restricted just to teenagers and young adults. People of all ages are now becoming regular visitors to online dating sites. Dating can be stressful and nerve wracking for people of all ages and the stress of rejection often does not disappear with maturity.

Dating Online

Online dating has become a very safe and accepted way to meet people and is popular for this reason. Online dating has only really taken off in the last few years, and the fact is that it is radically different from the traditional dating methods we are all used to. Online dating has helped many, many people find love all over the world as the previous physical barrier of distance and location has been removed by the internet. Online dating allows singles to learn important pieces of personal information about a potential partner before ever meeting them in person. By reading online dating profiles you quickly sift through a large number of potential partners and weed out the undesirables quickly and efficiently.


Online Dating Profiles

Whether you’re creating your online profile, or scanning through those of others, online dating is a tricky business at best. Profiles are provided on each member and most of the time a picture is included. Profiles with pictures are more than twice as likely to receive attention than profiles without pictures. Photos are often an important component of online dating profiles as physical appearance is important to most members. Tip: if someone posted a short profile and clearly put no thought into it, you can expect that kind of communication in real life.

Online dating is a high tech and modern way to date, but it brings back some old school elements because the relationships do not always advance so quickly. Online dating is especially convenient if you are uneasy about approaching members of the opposite gender in traditional meeting places such as bars and clubs, or if you have had bad experiences with these types of dating. An Internet survey showed that most single fathers agree that online dating is a safer and easier method for meeting other singles. 75 percent of respondents said that online dating is the easiest way for single parents to meet other single parents. 67 percent said that online dating is a safer way to date than other more conventional methods as you can study the profile of the person before arranging to meet them in person.