your communication comes from your body language – what you DON’T say and
less then 8% of your communication comes from what you DO say.
What does this mean to you?
It is MORE important to pay careful attention to HOW you say things, and HOW
you stand and HOW you act than it is to WHAT you say (at least initially).
You see, you could have the BEST game in the world and be able to really get
any woman to like you loads, for example online, but if you used those same
successful techniques in the real world and lacked obvious confidence, lacked
eye contact etc – You would simply CRASH and BURN.
Honestly, body language is SOOOO important in attracting women. Later in the
course we’ll go into how you can use the female’s body language to READ her
mind and know what she’s thinking. This article is about YOUR body language.
Ok… So, I’ll cover the basics as the advanced stuff is beyond the scope of
this article (if you want more advanced detail concerning body language you
can check out my site: http://tinyurl.com/kq6tob).
Body language basics:
1. Smile
You have to make the female feel at ease and comfortable that you are a
friendly and fun guy and you are not a psycho as quick as possible.
Especially when talking to her for the first time. You also need to let her
know that you are confident and comfortable around women. A big and genuine
smile is the best way to do this. It works. In fact, if you ever get an Ice
Queen that you can tell is about to give you the “dead eye”, give her a big
smile. Practice smiling at random people. You’ll be surprised by how many
people smile back and at how many doors open to you. Smiling WORKS. Just don’
t make it a cheesy, fake smile ;)
2. Eye contact
As you know there’s nothing worse than staring at a woman’s chest – or even
looking. It makes you just like all the other guys who drool over her. If
anything you should use all your skill to NOT look at her chest – she’ll
wonder why her womanly powers don’t work with you and she’ll seek your
attention and subconsciously TRY to get you to look!
When talking to her, try to maintain eye contact. Not too much because it can
be intimidating, but if you aim to have eye contact with her around 70% of
the time you are talking, this should be comfortable for most women. Don’t
stare like a crazy man, just be natural but if you naturally look away or are
slightly shy when it comes to eye contact, make a conscious effort to have a
little more. Eye contact can make serious connections within people. They say
the eyes are a window to the soul and I think there may be some truth to that.
There are even speed dating type events being run that involve just staring
into each others eyes – and from what I hear, they are pretty successful.
Maintain eye contact. Not too much, about 70% of conversation time. Be
natural.
3. Upright posture
Guys can get away with a bit of a hunch, but women really do prefer men with
straight, upright postures. Look at all the big film actors like Pitt, Cruise
etc. They all have good posture. It says to a woman you are confident,
healthy, and strong (at least in mind). It’s just generally more attractive
and says lots about who you are. Plus it’s good for your back and will help
strengthen your back muscles making it easier to maintain.
Get into the HABIT of having an upright posture.
4. Gesticulate with open palms
You will not hear this tip anywhere else (or if you do, it was almost
certainly copied from this course).
I’ve gone into in depth studies of body language and this one is a good one
to use in MANY circumstances – I’ve adapted it here after solid testing to
picking up women – however, some people suggest that when combined with a few
other verbal and non-verbal techniques it can even give you a 50/50 chance of
getting out of speeding fines!
Anyway, basically, when you are talking to a woman and trying to make a point
(that puts you in a positive light) or defend yourself (for example, a girl
suggests you might be a player) you talk and using your hands you have open
palms facing upwards. Keep your arms in front of your body with your palms
facing the sky and smile as you talk.
It works VERY well on a subconscious level to suggest you are being honest
and telling the truth. And if you want a woman to begin to trust you, making
her think you are being straight with her, is important.
This open palm gesticulation MUST be combined with a smile to work
effectively.
Those are the basics of body language, if you'd like to learn more visit
Tiffany Taylor's site by clicking here
http://tinyurl.com/kq6tob
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